Guess am on my way........

Just when you decide to drop your pen. The door opens and here you are with a bunch of files that needs your approval and all you hear again is that tiny voice that gets you on your feet. "Tony I need you to go through all these files and i need them on my table by tomorrow morning" Looking at your watch it is 5.30pm and your appointment letter says resumption time is 8am while closing time is 5pm. Am sure you know what is going through my mind now (Curses of different degrees for the boss) but you dare not say them out. All you do is smile and say okay.

Above is a typical scenario everyone who has not reached the peak faces in every area of life. Be it Career, Relationships, Marriage, Religion and even during day to day activities. Just when you say that word "Guess am on my way........." Another challenge rises up and then you wonder am i ever going to be free, will i ever have peace of mind, will i ever move to the next level?

The good news is count yourself lucky to be fit and capable of facing challenges. Many are out there just hoping if only i could have a job i would not mind working 24 hours, others are hoping if only i have a relationship i would not mind us disagreeing everyday and some are also saying if only i can be accepted in this society i will not mind ........ and here you are feeling down because you are faced with such challenges.

Challenges don't just come they are the pre destined bridges to link us from our present to our future (Good or Bad). The way we handle such challenges determine if the future turns good or goes bad. When faced with one ask yourself this question " Do i want to tred on this bridge gently so as to get to the other side safe and happy or do i want to jump on this bridge and not make it to the other side safe all because i lack patience? Such questions help us make better decisions though not always because sometimes we don't even have the opportunity to think of those questions before acting but a constant thought of such questions prepares us for such times. A good example is Tony, the way he decides to handle the challenge in front of him determines what tomorrow holds for him if he will still be in employment with a clean shit of no queries or  probably even lose his job or face disciplinary actions cause at that point he has little or no time to think of the questions.

Here we are today in the same situation thinking am at a cross road which way should i go. What i will say to you is go the direction that will not be free of challenges because every challenge makes you stronger and prepares you for the next level of progress.

Stranded in the real world

          Looking back at the days when my primary school teacher will ask us all in class "What will you like to be when you grow up" and you hear answers like "excuse mi ma" "I want to be a teacher, doctor, lawyer .......etc." Twenty years down the line those voices are resounding in my memory and all i hear now is "God if only i could get a job, if only i was married, if only i had money, if only life can be just a little much better" 
Now the question i ask myself is "What factors have become responsible for the different things we speak using the same voice we used twenty years back but uttering different words"? 
        The journey of life goes in such a way that you plan it so perfectly well that you wonder sometimes if anything could ever go wrong and just when you decide to stop planning, the force of destiny blows it's wind and all you have to do is start planning all over again and just when you feel you have done it right a second time you discover your plans were only going to come to pass in a world that was perfect. Unfortunately the real world you live in is not close to a perfect world. A world full of uncertainties and surprises, a world where the hopeless have hope (which is popularly known as miracles) and those with great expectations become hopeless and then you wonder why?

         Some lose it along the line while others struggle to continue. In the process of struggling some are still hoping and others are hopeless yet all are struggling. This takes me to the story so far.

         A young lady who has being addressed as princess all her life grows up to discover no man wants her hand in marriage and all she does ask is why? She has journeyed all through life with a mind set that a princess gets married  to a handsome prince who is very rich and famous. Here she is stranded in a world where she has hardly had a straight six months relationship without breaking up. Now she has come to sit and reflect on the reasons why. Growing up for the princess was smooth and without challenges therefore having no reasons to build up stamina. She had everything at her finger tips and whenever she wanted something all she did was cry and she is given all she wants. Princess has journeyed through life not knowing the reality of life awaits her and that when faced with that reality she will be left alone with herself, her attitude and her stamina to withstand the wind. She has journeyed all through life based on false ideas and practices. Only if she knew then that she will be stranded someday probably she would have learnt how to cook, how to wash and how to speak politely.

          Our journey through life can be related to that of princess who lived life thinking it will always be good, and that same song will always be what we will sing. We were never told a real world awaits us whereby all what we have gathered during the cause of our journey will be the things that will speak for us when stranded. We were never encouraged to hold our cutlasses to clear the footpath in case the grasses grow during our long walk in life. All we pictured in mind was a very bright tomorrow forgetting tomorrow has it's own seasons of MORNING, AFTERNOON and NIGHT. If only we were prepared probably some would not think i can party all night and yet be welcomed home with my husband's hand widely open or some will not think i can have all the friends in the world yet keep a good home. Remember you can not serve two masters which has it's exception whereby you can serve two masters only if you will be the sacrifice. 
        Therefore the answer to the question of "What factors have become responsible for the different things we speak using the same voice we used twenty years back but uttering different words"?
      is lack of preparation. Identifying how prepared we are for the challenges ahead helps us determine what to hope for, what to long for and what to go for.
        

The world of unending expectations..........

The world full of so many unsatisfied achievers. They wake up with so many plans achieve them and getting to the end they have so many to start with again.... and the question is why all the worries..... We are in a world where the trend is followed to the later part of our lives where the foundation now has to determine the direction knowing fully well that the foundation was not set by us but the direction becomes our responsibility.

And here you are after achieving all those things that you saw as great back in the days. The question comes WHAT NEXT? And then you remember there is something greater than the present achievement and you want to get there but the question WHY never comes at that point.


Born into the world where you can not decide from the first day that you want to be a brick layer or a goldsmith..... all arrows says go to school. Here you are gone to all the schools, achieved all you can in school and have the money but yet there are still so much expected of you and so little you expect of yourself. The reality of this stared at our ascestors but instead of been more flexible the present generation is faced with the same and the question is WHY...... Are we going to look while our children come into the world have no opportunity to choose for themselves until they get older and when  they have the opportunity the foundation has to be considered?

So much is expected as the day goes by but just a few of the expectations will be achieved without bringing forth further expectations. A summary of the world we live in can be said to be a journey where there is no destination but alot of stop overs. Directions are determined by the road signs (Economic, Political, Social and Cultural factors not forgetting religion) and stop overs are determined by capability and how far one can go at a particular time.  And the question still remains is there going to be an end to the expectations?