"You need to talk to someone you can confide in, someone who cares and will understand. Not necessarily the one you are speaking to at the moment, I know God will strengthen you. Keep yourself strong and remember life needs to continue no matter how much we fall. The good news is we have to stand up and keep moving cause the finish line is the goal not the obstacles we face while on the track"
Just when i felt i have communicated effectively after saying all these things, the big question that sweeps me off my feet comes. " How do you stand and keep moving?"................. Hmm food for thought.
Here we are in a confused world full of confused people. Everyone trying to set the standard and meet up to expectations forgetting those expectations were standards set by men. A world where you wake up and the under wears that were invented initially to cover the buttocks are now made for the buttocks to cover the underwear. Are we going to say we are not going to follow the standard. A world where in fifty years from now our children will see what we call absurd as their own lifestyle (standard) which they will have to live as normal.
Now that brings me to the question why worry about how bad you have fallen when you still have such a long track to cover to reach your goal. The disappointment of falling does not come most times based on the fact that we fall but based on the fact that people expected better things than that. Why bother about people? They were not there when the standards were set, they would not be there when the standards will be changed, so why consider them when setting your own standard?
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Falling is the ultimate test of stamina, standing is the ultimate reassurance of confidence. Standing tells everyone you know what you are doing and you know where you are heading. How do you stand? You stand by understanding you have not reached your final goal therefore that motivates you to stand. Now when people do not cherish their final goals even when they realize they have not reached that goal after falling, they may decide to abandon that goal and want to give up. Therefore first key point for standing is understanding your goal and cherishing it with a passion. The three D's of cherishing and achieving it is Determination, Dedication and Discipline. Those 3 D's will make you cherish and achieve what ever goal you desire in life once you have the backing of God.
Am still off my feet as that question still keeps me thinking........ "How do you stand and keep moving"
Post your comments just to help people know how they can stand after they feel or sense they have fallen.
Just when you decide to drop your pen. The door opens and here you are with a bunch of files that needs your approval and all you hear again is that tiny voice that gets you on your feet. "Tony I need you to go through all these files and i need them on my table by tomorrow morning" Looking at your watch it is 5.30pm and your appointment letter says resumption time is 8am while closing time is 5pm. Am sure you know what is going through my mind now (Curses of different degrees for the boss) but you dare not say them out. All you do is smile and say okay.
Above is a typical scenario everyone who has not reached the peak faces in every area of life. Be it Career, Relationships, Marriage, Religion and even during day to day activities. Just when you say that word "Guess am on my way........." Another challenge rises up and then you wonder am i ever going to be free, will i ever have peace of mind, will i ever move to the next level?
The good news is count yourself lucky to be fit and capable of facing challenges. Many are out there just hoping if only i could have a job i would not mind working 24 hours, others are hoping if only i have a relationship i would not mind us disagreeing everyday and some are also saying if only i can be accepted in this society i will not mind ........ and here you are feeling down because you are faced with such challenges.
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Challenges don't just come they are the pre destined bridges to link us from our present to our future (Good or Bad). The way we handle such challenges determine if the future turns good or goes bad. When faced with one ask yourself this question " Do i want to tred on this bridge gently so as to get to the other side safe and happy or do i want to jump on this bridge and not make it to the other side safe all because i lack patience? Such questions help us make better decisions though not always because sometimes we don't even have the opportunity to think of those questions before acting but a constant thought of such questions prepares us for such times. A good example is Tony, the way he decides to handle the challenge in front of him determines what tomorrow holds for him if he will still be in employment with a clean shit of no queries or probably even lose his job or face disciplinary actions cause at that point he has little or no time to think of the questions.
Here we are today in the same situation thinking am at a cross road which way should i go. What i will say to you is go the direction that will not be free of challenges because every challenge makes you stronger and prepares you for the next level of progress.
Looking back at the days when my primary school teacher will ask us all in class "What will you like to be when you grow up" and you hear answers like "excuse mi ma" "I want to be a teacher, doctor, lawyer .......etc." Twenty years down the line those voices are resounding in my memory and all i hear now is "God if only i could get a job, if only i was married, if only i had money, if only life can be just a little much better"
Now the question i ask myself is "What factors have become responsible for the different things we speak using the same voice we used twenty years back but uttering different words"?
The journey of life goes in such a way that you plan it so perfectly well that you wonder sometimes if anything could ever go wrong and just when you decide to stop planning, the force of destiny blows it's wind and all you have to do is start planning all over again and just when you feel you have done it right a second time you discover your plans were only going to come to pass in a world that was perfect. Unfortunately the real world you live in is not close to a perfect world. A world full of uncertainties and surprises, a world where the hopeless have hope (which is popularly known as miracles) and those with great expectations become hopeless and then you wonder why?
Some lose it along the line while others struggle to continue. In the process of struggling some are still hoping and others are hopeless yet all are struggling. This takes me to the story so far.
A young lady who has being addressed as princess all her life grows up to discover no man wants her hand in marriage and all she does ask is why? She has journeyed all through life with a mind set that a princess gets married to a handsome prince who is very rich and famous. Here she is stranded in a world where she has hardly had a straight six months relationship without breaking up. Now she has come to sit and reflect on the reasons why. Growing up for the princess was smooth and without challenges therefore having no reasons to build up stamina. She had everything at her finger tips and whenever she wanted something all she did was cry and she is given all she wants. Princess has journeyed through life not knowing the reality of life awaits her and that when faced with that reality she will be left alone with herself, her attitude and her stamina to withstand the wind. She has journeyed all through life based on false ideas and practices. Only if she knew then that she will be stranded someday probably she would have learnt how to cook, how to wash and how to speak politely.
Our journey through life can be related to that of princess who lived life thinking it will always be good, and that same song will always be what we will sing. We were never told a real world awaits us whereby all what we have gathered during the cause of our journey will be the things that will speak for us when stranded. We were never encouraged to hold our cutlasses to clear the footpath in case the grasses grow during our long walk in life. All we pictured in mind was a very bright tomorrow forgetting tomorrow has it's own seasons of MORNING, AFTERNOON and NIGHT. If only we were prepared probably some would not think i can party all night and yet be welcomed home with my husband's hand widely open or some will not think i can have all the friends in the world yet keep a good home. Remember you can not serve two masters which has it's exception whereby you can serve two masters only if you will be the sacrifice.
Therefore the answer to the question of "What factors have become responsible for the different things we speak using the same voice we used twenty years back but uttering different words"?
is lack of preparation. Identifying how prepared we are for the challenges ahead helps us determine what to hope for, what to long for and what to go for.
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