It's So Easy To Say But Not So Easy To Do

Walking through the lonely roads of a foreign land after a long day's work, rain falling and everyone in a rush to get back home and call it a day. I put on my headphones and switch the music to play. At the other end is a confused man who feels his life is turning upside down, seeking advice from his sister who recommends and calls a third party to give a short counselling session. After so much of encouraging words, there is a long silence and the response to all that have been said is "It's So Easy To Say But Not So Easy To Do". I present to you R. Kelly's 3 Way Phone Call.

Many of us have at some point in our lives being advised on what to do and how to go about it. Sometimes when listening to such advice you even get confused as to why you never knew all these stuffs before now especially if being spoken to by a smooth talker who speaks really well. You hear such things like 

"Try to be hard working"                                                "You have to be humble and submissive" 

"You need to forgive"                                                     "You need to love"

Bla Bla Bla................

We have a task to achieve and that is executing all of these things. Is it enough to just say go and excel without giving out the necessary tools and not only giving them but also showing how to use such tools. Many are with the right tools a few have been shown how to use them. Listening to those words makes one reflect on how smooth a talker one can be and how little such talks would be needed if only one could show it. Do we think communication will be more effective if we viewed examples of the advice people give? Even though everything does not work for people in the same way or fashion, with a proper example that is obvious, it will be easier to customize such examples to work for each person.

Let's look at some general samples. Dad tells son " Learn to forgive and the same Dad has being in the same house with Mum for 5 days without talking to each other". Isn't that an irony. A very common one. Our boss at work always says "Try not to be lazy, come to work early, plan ahead and be hard working". The same boss at 10am is at the golf club on a Monday morning, gets to work 1pm and just starts preparing in a rush for a meeting that is scheduled for 2pm. In the real sense of it, are such advises gotten from such people effective? Let's think about it. In any area of our present life how much effort have we tried to put into doing first before saying rather than saying before doing? 

My own opinion is advises will be much more easier to accept and execute if the adviser does first before saying. 

What do you think? Comment.

How do you stand and keep moving?

"You need to talk to someone you can confide in, someone who cares and will understand. Not necessarily the one you are speaking to at the moment, I know God will strengthen you. Keep yourself strong and remember life needs to continue no matter how much we fall. The good news is we have to stand up and keep moving cause the finish line is the goal not the obstacles we face while on the track"

Just when i felt i have communicated effectively after saying all these things, the big question that sweeps me off my feet comes. " How do you stand and keep moving?"................. Hmm food for thought.

Here we are in a confused world full of confused people. Everyone trying to set the standard and meet up to expectations forgetting those expectations were standards set by men. A world where you wake up and the under wears that were invented initially to cover the buttocks are now made for the buttocks to cover the underwear. Are we going to say we are not going to follow the standard. A world where in fifty years from now our children will see what we call absurd as their own lifestyle (standard) which they will have to live as normal. 

Now that brings me to the question why worry about how bad you have fallen when you still have such a long track to cover to reach your goal. The disappointment of falling does not come most times based on the fact that we fall but based on the fact that people expected better things than that. Why bother about people? They were not there when the standards were set, they would not be there when the standards will be changed, so why consider them when setting your own standard? 

Falling is the ultimate test of stamina, standing is the ultimate reassurance of confidence. Standing tells everyone you know what you are doing and you know where you are heading. How do you stand? You stand by understanding you have not reached your final goal therefore that motivates you to stand. Now when people do not cherish their final goals even when they realize they have not reached that goal after falling, they may decide to abandon that goal and want to give up. Therefore first key point for standing is understanding your goal and cherishing it with a passion. The three D's of cherishing and achieving it is Determination, Dedication and Discipline. Those 3 D's will make you cherish and achieve what ever goal you desire in life once you have the backing of God.

Am still off my feet as that question still keeps me thinking........ "How do you stand and keep moving"

Post your comments just to help people know how they can stand after they feel or sense they have fallen.

Guess am on my way........

Just when you decide to drop your pen. The door opens and here you are with a bunch of files that needs your approval and all you hear again is that tiny voice that gets you on your feet. "Tony I need you to go through all these files and i need them on my table by tomorrow morning" Looking at your watch it is 5.30pm and your appointment letter says resumption time is 8am while closing time is 5pm. Am sure you know what is going through my mind now (Curses of different degrees for the boss) but you dare not say them out. All you do is smile and say okay.

Above is a typical scenario everyone who has not reached the peak faces in every area of life. Be it Career, Relationships, Marriage, Religion and even during day to day activities. Just when you say that word "Guess am on my way........." Another challenge rises up and then you wonder am i ever going to be free, will i ever have peace of mind, will i ever move to the next level?

The good news is count yourself lucky to be fit and capable of facing challenges. Many are out there just hoping if only i could have a job i would not mind working 24 hours, others are hoping if only i have a relationship i would not mind us disagreeing everyday and some are also saying if only i can be accepted in this society i will not mind ........ and here you are feeling down because you are faced with such challenges.

Challenges don't just come they are the pre destined bridges to link us from our present to our future (Good or Bad). The way we handle such challenges determine if the future turns good or goes bad. When faced with one ask yourself this question " Do i want to tred on this bridge gently so as to get to the other side safe and happy or do i want to jump on this bridge and not make it to the other side safe all because i lack patience? Such questions help us make better decisions though not always because sometimes we don't even have the opportunity to think of those questions before acting but a constant thought of such questions prepares us for such times. A good example is Tony, the way he decides to handle the challenge in front of him determines what tomorrow holds for him if he will still be in employment with a clean shit of no queries or  probably even lose his job or face disciplinary actions cause at that point he has little or no time to think of the questions.

Here we are today in the same situation thinking am at a cross road which way should i go. What i will say to you is go the direction that will not be free of challenges because every challenge makes you stronger and prepares you for the next level of progress.