Spotting the difference

There is always a difference between every situation, every thought and every action. Spotting the difference might not be easy but always know there is a difference. The difference is that edge that gives us hope. The difference is that which gives you a reason to want to give it a second shot and that difference is that which gives you strength to keep moving on.


In the cause of our existence i have come to discover that in as much has that difference has a lot of good things attached to it there is something needed to benefit from it, that is spotting it. Inability to spot the difference is one of the things that make people do several things they do in today's world. Let's start with ourselves. Reading this piece today there are several things you have done because that is the trend others are following. 

Try to identify 

what this shining light is and

see how difficult it is to 

spot the difference.

If walking or driving towards this shining light, the ability to spot the difference of it been either a shining moon, a torch light or a bike's full light determines what actions we take. Inability to be able to spot it puts us in confusion and this can be likened to why so many people are confused today because they have failed to spot the difference.

You see students studying in a particular manner because that is how their friends are studying forgetting they need to spot the difference between them and their friends and how well each person can assimilate and what period. You see people saying i want to travel abroad because that is what everyone around them is doing forgetting to spot the difference between what your family can afford and what others can, forgetting everyone's mission is different. You see others jumping into relationships and marriages because their friends are getting married or because someone has said it's time to get married. They have forgotten there is a difference between each person's destiny and life plan. Forgetting it is not how early you do it but how successful it becomes when you do it. 




We find ourselves following the crowd because we have refused to sit down and spot the difference between   ourselves and others. We compare ourselves with others every opportunity we have making ourselves sad forgetting no two lives have the same mission. They can be similar but never the same. 

A clear way to know the essence of spotting the difference is when you want to take a shower in an environment where the temperature is cold and you need to use a warm water to shower. You have two buckets of water in front of you same bucket size and color but one is warm and the other is very cold. If you refuse to wait a minute to spot the difference and you end up pouring a bowl of the cold one on your body am sure you can imagine what will happen. That is how important and necessary spotting the difference is in life. The more we are able to spot the difference between us and others the more right decisions we are likely to make in live. 

WHAT MAKES LOVE EMPTY

The saying goes thus "It is whatever you leave carelessly that a goat carries". If related to matters of relationships, it can be said to be, "It is the spouse you do not care for that another man/woman entices and get". 

Experiencing matters of the heart does not seem to be a stranger but understanding matters of the heart might be quite a challenge for many of us and as it has always been said that challenges are not meant to oppress but to make you press forward to achieve your desired goal. Based on the above statement it will then be correct to say understanding matters of the heart is worth looking forward to as we are sure it will lead us to a desired goal. 


Love is a word that entails a lot but it is commonly used while empty. It can be compared to a person's system's hard drive that contains mostly everything the system needs to function but this person mostly uses the hard drive when infected with a virus that clears the memory therefore leading to the person who owns the hard drive not to value it because it is already empty when used. 



Love is full of things like Patience, Kindness, Tolerance, Peace, Long Suffering and so many things. Love becomes empty of all these things when there is doubt. You see a wife who claims to love and says "I love you" every time she sees her husband and yet the first thing she does immediately the husband picks a call is to try and find out who called in suspicion of foul play. Such love is empty and all it does is paralyses the relationship. It kills faster than any disease. 

The only solution i can think of at the moment is this. "When You Love Never Doubt, and When You Doubt Never Love".


If you know of any other solution not to make love empty please post when typing your comment.

Choices we never made.

The little child with five nannies attending to him/her and the little child sleeping under the bridge without a mother have something in common which is the inability to decide which family they were born into. The child who bares John and the other who bares Wilson both have something in common, the inability to choose what they should be called as at that time even though we now have people growing up and changing their names but as at then when they were little such choices were never their's to make.

Walking down my usual lonely road while trying to go earn a living, rain pouring down heavily during that rush hour when everyone is trying to make it to work before resumption time. I can not but help notice a small boy of about five or six years old all dressed up in a grey trouser, white shirt and a little bit over-sized dark blue jacket which if am right is his school uniform, also participating in the rush of making it to school before it's 9am but now he is fully soaked with the down pour of the rain. He is still dragging himself in the rain without any umbrella and just right beside me on the road is another boy of the same age having the same school uniform on, seated inside a Mercedes-Benz S-Class licking a big stick of lollipop. 

The two different scenarios at the same time got me really thinking and that brought about questions. 
Did any of those two little boys ever choose their present situations or conditions?
Did one do something much better than the other?
If they happen to  be in the same class will it be easier for the boy who has just finished having lollipop to concentrate compared to the other one who will probably still be finding a way to get his clothes dry or shivering from the impact of the wet clothes?  

So many questions to ask and a few right answers to be given which leads to the summary that there are so many choices we never made but the good news is most of them we can change. We find ourselves in different situations that we never planned to be and instead of work towards changing them all we do is lament without doing anything about it. Ask yourself today, "That thing I complained about, what have i done to change it?" The family you use as excuse for not having a good background, now that you have grown up what efforts have you made to ensure that the next family that comes through you will not experience what you have experienced. 

Are we going to be like the young boy who despite the rain still decided to keep walking straight to school because he wanted to impact the choices he never had the opportunity to make or are we going to do otherwise and stay in the rain looking at the boy in the car and just having self pity without doing anything?