Thursday 27 September 2012

It's So Easy To Say But Not So Easy To Do



Walking through the lonely roads of a foreign land after a long day's work, rain falling and everyone in a rush to get back home and call it a day. I put on my headphones and switch the music to play. At the other end is a confused man who feels his life is turning upside down, seeking advice from his sister who recommends and calls a third party to give a short counselling session. After so much of encouraging words, there is a long silence and the response to all that have been said is "It's So Easy To Say But Not So Easy To Do". I present to you R. Kelly's 3 Way Phone Call.

Many of us have at some point in our lives being advised on what to do and how to go about it. Sometimes when listening to such advice you even get confused as to why you never knew all these stuffs before now especially if being spoken to by a smooth talker who speaks really well. You hear such things like 
"Try to be hard working"                                                "You have to be humble and submissive" 
"You need to forgive"                                                     "You need to love"
Bla Bla Bla................

We have a task to achieve and that is executing all of these things. Is it enough to just say go and excel without giving out the necessary tools and not only giving them but also showing how to use such tools. Many are with the right tools a few have been shown how to use them. Listening to those words makes one reflect on how smooth a talker one can be and how little such talks would be needed if only one could show it. Do we think communication will be more effective if we viewed examples of the advice people give? Even though everything does not work for people in the same way or fashion, with a proper example that is obvious, it will be easier to customize such examples to work for each person.

Let's look at some general samples. Dad tells son " Learn to forgive and the same Dad has being in the same house with Mum for 5 days without talking to each other". Isn't that an irony. A very common one. Our boss at work always says "Try not to be lazy, come to work early, plan ahead and be hard working". The same boss at 10am is at the golf club on a Monday morning, gets to work 1pm and just starts preparing in a rush for a meeting that is scheduled for 2pm. In the real sense of it, are such advises gotten from such people effective? Let's think about it. In any area of our present life how much effort have we tried to put into doing first before saying rather than saying before doing? 

My own opinion is advises will be much more easier to accept and execute if the adviser does first before saying. 




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